Wishing Away Today
My youngest son looked out the window and said, “Mom, is it snowing again?? I don’t want winter. I just want it to be summer!” I laughed and thought to myself, “It will be someday. Just not today and that’s ok.” Isn’t it interesting how sometimes we wish away today for tomorrow. Are you ever tempted to do this in your mothering journey? You get preoccupied with the future and then completely miss out on what’s happening right now. I’d like to offer two suggestions if you are wishing away today.
Accept Reality— It will be someday. Just not today and that’s ok!
Choose Today— “There” is not better than “here”.
Accept Reality— It will be someday. Just not today and that’s ok!
What are the “summers” we often wish for as moms?
I wish he was sleeping through the night.
I wish she was potty trained.
I wish all my kids were in school.
If you have three kids in diapers, wishing that they weren’t doesn’t change the fact that they are. It doesn’t matter if my son wants summer. Where we live right now—it’s winter! The so-called difficult phases of motherhood can seem like a “never ending winter” but we all know that “summer” always comes. Just remind yourself, “It will be some day. Just not today and that’s ok.” So much good can come from the “winter” if you accept your current reality. Watch out if your brain starts to glamorize the future because summer isn’t necessarily better than winter.
Choose Today—“There” is not better than “here”.
I’ve had several empty nester moms tell me, “It’s not better, it’s just different.” I’m not sharing this to make you feel discouraged. It’s the way of life. There will be ups and downs no matter what phase we are in. If we start to believe that the future will be better, we miss out on today. Don’t wish away your “winters''. Accept them and open your eyes to the good that comes from all seasons. Some things in motherhood will seem so incredibly hard and undesirable and that’s ok! But truly there is A LOT to be learned, loved and experienced today so don’t wish it away!
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