If…then…

Mother’s Day can be tricky. Sometimes it doesn’t feel like a “special” day so I’d like to share a tool for you to TRY. It’s called the if/then tool. First, consider for a minute why Mother’s Day can be tough. I’ve started to compile some possible reasons. See if one resonates with you.

If you…

negatively compare yourself to other women

miss your own mother who has passed

have a difficult mother/daughter dynamic—past or present

feel unappreciated or disappointed because of how others are behaving

aren’t doing anything “special”

are grieving because of infertility

are experiencing something else I haven’t mentioned

then…

accept where you are with compassion.

allow yourself to feel negative emotions without judgment.

discover the thoughts creating your feelings and take accountability.

consider if you want to experience something differently.

get curious about ALL of the possible thoughts & feelings you could experiment with. 

take hope & courage in knowing you get to choose! :)

try, try, and try on other possibilities.

embrace thoughts & feelings that click and help you experience something different.

Hopefully these ideas help you navigate the harder parts of Mother’s Day. Remember, it doesn’t have to look one way. You may experience grief, learning, laughs, disappointment, love, appreciation—just remember that with a little awareness and intention you can always adjust, if you want.